REAL TALK | Marriage

So about a month or so ago, I posted about my husband and I's 10 year wedding anniversary... first of all, I feel like we are still TOO young to be able to say we've been married that long!  It's so crazy how time flies!  Secondly, I felt that it was appropriate to make a post given some recent happenings in our life to remind everyone that marriage isn't always laughter and cake smashes.  Sometimes, it gets ugly, and you just have to muddle through.

Because I am not one to air my dirty laundry, I won't get into the meat of our recent happenings, but I will say it was not a great few days for us.  While we are married and jointly make many decisions, we are also still at the core two individuals with the ability to think for ourselves, act on our own free will and inevitably piss off our partner.  And that we both did... and have done before... and we happen to be very skilled in it.

It took a few days for things between my husband and I to settle down.  We didn't really speak for a few days -- only when necessary.  Our son was kind of our buffer.  We don't argue in front of him intentionally, but I'm sure he could feel the tension in the room for those few days.  We would talk to each other through him.  "You should tell daddy ________." "Oh, well I bet mommy is going to do __________."  I think you get the idea.

After things settled down, I arranged for an impromptu date night to our favorite restaurant with the intention that we would be wandering with my camera.  So, we dropped our son off at my grandma's house and off we went.  We had SO much fun.  It was a chance for us to blow off steam and kind of get back to our normal.  A recharge, if you will.  I think fighting and arguing is a healthy, normal thing in marriages, and I think that the closer of a couple you are the harder the fights are.  But, at the end of the day, the love continues to grow stronger between us and our love for each other being rooted in our faith is absolutely essential to our relationship, and it helps!!!

I guess what I'm trying to say is -- it's okay to have a bad day or two.  It's okay to not agree.  It's okay to fight and argue.  It's okay to be sad.  It's okay to go to bed angry.  It's okay to not like your spouse... because the love is still there.

Amber Pond